The Terrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Yesterday was a doozy of a day. It started off badly, and I told myself, 'Surely today will have to go up from here.' Nope.

It started off with getting into an argument with Trent over a piece of gum. It wasn't really about a piece of gum, it was about him not listening and constantly being defiant with me. I have been holding in a lot of upset feelings at his disrespect [therapy appointment is next week ha], and my reaction was disproportionate to his behavior...but I am human and I had hit my limit. I sent him to school with bad words still floating in the air around us. And I hated myself for it.

Yesterday was a gloomy, rainy, cold, gray day. That never helps my mood.

A partner at work suggested something that was utterly ridiculous and my response might not have had my usual filtering in place.

I did get a workout in, but after I got home I found out that our beloved preschool teacher lost her son in a car accident on Monday. I don't think I know a kinder woman. She loved on Trent when he was at his most unlovable, and I am broken-hearted for her. Add to that my guilt over the fight with Trent, and I was a mess for a good chunk of the day.

Brent and I also were grumpy with each other for a little part of the morning - before we learned of this death. I don't like when we're out of sorts. Luckily, we are much more mature as adults than we were as teens and were able to talk through our miscommunication.

The kids picked on each other a lot after school.

I just felt really sad and out of sorts all day. Luckily, for me, tomorrow is another day. A good friend of mine, who is also a trauma therapist, and I were talking about this loss as her kids also went to this school. And she told me Parenting is a unique form of vulnerability. And that really struck a chord with me - if that isn't the simplest sentence conveying the most complex emotions then I don't know what is!

I have no point to this post except I was hoping getting these thoughts out of my head might help me feel a little less yucky. I don't need to move to Australia, and I am fortunate that my good days immeasurably outnumber my bad. But man I don't want to repeat yesterday ever again.

Oscars Fashion 2020

Did anybody watch the Oscars last night? I thought the show was pretty good! Trent watched a part of it with me and was cracking up, ha. Overall, I would say I liked most of the fashion! There were some risks taken and different styles, but most everyone looked really great. I saw lots of sparkles - it seemed to be what there was the most of - and I LOVE a good sparkly dress!

America Ferrera

I love everything about this EXCEPT the head band. 

It is not needed and makes the outfit look like a Greek costume.

Brie Larson

HOLY SMOKES. This could have been a favorite for me EASILY.

She looks insanely hot.

Laura Dern

When I first saw this, I wasn't crazy about the tassels. It looks like tapestry.

However, when she won and walked on stage, I got it.

Not my favorite, but it grew on me.

Margot Robbie

Meh. I like the actual dress okay.

I don't like the ribbons(?) hanging from her arms.

I also don't like her hair - her roots look bad and overall it looks dirty.

Billy Porter

I don't understand his style, but he looks FIERCE in it.

Caitriona Balfe

Nope. I love her {Outlander!} but don't love this. :(

Charlize Theron

I think this is a gorgeous dress, but it doesn't do anything for her. Sad.

Sandra Oh

 I think I would have liked this with EITHER the sleeves or the bottom.

Both were too much. But the sparkles were great! And fit her really well too.

Maya Rudolph

Sparkles in a non-skin-tight manner. This is okay to me.

I think it was just too much fabric - no sleeves OR no cape - 

and it would have been much better!

Mindy Kaling

She looks GREAT in this dress!

HOWEVER, she looked like she's had a lot of work done when she presented?

Was that just me? I was sad.

*Also I hate that she is wearing Dolce & Gabbana for their racist advertising.*

Brad Goreski

I love Brad and loved how he made his tux fun but still fit and looked GREAT.

FASHUN.

Cynthia Erivo 

She owned that dress! And her performance? Holy geez, AMAZING.

Natalie Portman

I wish I could find a picture without her coat - it's a beautiful and unique dress!

Also I love that it had all the female directors NOT nominated embroidered in it!

Rebel Wilson

Another sparkly winner! She looks great.

One thing I don't like is I feel like her hair isn't great?

Brad Pitt

I have no words. H-O-T.

Florence Pugh

This is another one that I feel looks unique and great!

I don't think you would have seen this a few years ago?

Gal Gadot

To quote Brent: Smoke show!

Renee Zellweger

DAMN. Another one that could have been my best dressed.

George MacKay and Dean-Charles Chapman

My 1917 boys. LOVE.

Idina Menzel

Another favorite of the night!

Janelle Monae

I don't love the head covering but the dress looks fabulous.

Rooney Mara

Why does she always look bad and angry?

Saoirse Ronan

This isn't my favorite look of hers, but I love her so much.

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos

 Aren't they so beautiful?

Kristin Cavallari

This is a 'safe' dress - we've seen it before - but she looks awesome.

Roman Griffin Davis and Archie Yates

The JoJo Rabbit boys are TOO CUTE!

WORST DRESSED

Aurora

She's the *sound* Elsa hears in Frozen 2.

We should just keep her in our ears and not eyes, right?

Kristen Wiig

Nope. Do not understand this one - too many weird things here.

The side boob with netting, the butterfly wings, the gloves, the train. Nope.

Timothee Chalamet

It's like a fancy track suit?

BEST DRESSED

Regina King

This was flawless - 

the color, the sparkle, the unique details, the way it fit, everything.

Scarlett Johansson

I love that this is a simple/classic silhouette but it's a bit unique here.

I love her simple makeup and hair and her earrings were so beautiful.

Simple and classy, overall gorgeous.

BEST COUPLE

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson

Hands down couples goals!