Thursday, July 16, 2020

Trent's 11th Year: The Stats

Time to check in on how this guy has grown in his 11th year!


Stats:
Height: 56" {54%}
Weight: 64.5 pounds {18%}
BMI: 14.5 {4%}
Clothes size: 8/M or 10/L
Shoe size: 4.5 {same as me!}


By the numbers:
Inches grown: 2
Pounds gained: 4.5
BMI: down 4% {eek}
Teeth lost: 4, I think??? He has maybe 1 left to lose total and then BRACES
Clothes: He has been an 8 for several years and they are finally getting too small, his jeans are all MEGA high waters
Shoes: up 2 sizes


Same as last year, there aren't huge changes for Trent - it's not like he's learning to walk or eat food, ha. But he is changing and maturing, so it's really neat to see how he matures {or doesn't} from year-to-year.


School - This year was an utter shitshow for Trent. Looking back at last year's post, I said he had his best year ever. He decided to follow that up with his worst in a long time, sigh. Things had finally turned around right before he stopped going to school in FEBRUARY {remember we had the chicken pox issue before quarantine}.


Activities - Trent still loves to play video games on his iPad - especially with his friends. We actually bought him his own iPad for his birthday this year, and he is in heaven. We still limit screen time {although most days it's still more than I intend!}, so he has to find other things to do. He reads constantly. This is often a struggle for me because he has a high school+ reading/comprehension level, but the books that interest him are often more mature than he needs to be reading, so I have to work hard to find books that will interest him but not be too mature. We're debating The Hunger Games right now... He has also become OBSESSED with football. He played basketball again in the winter and didn't enjoy it. If we get to play sports ever again, he wants to play flag football. He pretty much never plays with Legos anymore - although he did some during a recent grounding {desperate times} and has given quite a few to a neighbor's son. 


Friends - Trent's best friend is Jaxon, who is our neighbor's grandson. They are 2 peas in a nerd pod. He also still really loves Miles, and even though Asa moved to Nebraska they still play games on the iPad or FaceTime together. He still likes Evelyn {his first girlfriend} who was at CMS with us and is at Goodwater too, and he had a friend this year at school named Cassidy, but they haven't talked since quarantine.


Family - Trent is nothing if not consistent with how he treats his family. He LOVES Paige and is rarely grumpy with her. He tolerates Drew, although they do enjoy playing Roblox together, and loves nothing more than making her squeal.


He idolizes Brent, will do almost anything with him, listens to him, etc. He continues to fight with me the most - we had a rough June where almost every interaction was an argument. He and I do still read together, although not every day. Right now we're reading Stamped.


Food continues to be a battle, although we largely know what he'll eat and won't eat and he's done great with negotiating for trying new foods. Some days are better than others, but we keep working at it! I would say his favorite food is a hamburger or cheeseburger - but just the meat, no bun. He's not a huge sweets kid, he definitely prefers salty.


He 'graduated' from behavioral therapy in May. I hope he doesn't need to go anymore because it is a sore point for him, but I love his therapist, so I know we have a good resource should we need it again.


Trent is so funny and sarcastic. It can be a blessing and a curse. He loves to make people laugh, but he can get in trouble for pushing things too far! He struggles to respect adults and is sarcastic a little too often with people he shouldn't be {me and his teachers!}.


Trent's favorite person in the world continues to be his Nana. I love the bond those 2 have. I think he would move in over there if we let him.


Trent is my messiest kid {although Paige might be up there}, he gets that from me 100%. He can clean his room and before the day is over, it's messy again. His closet is a wreck, junk under his bed...he just doesn't care!


No matter the ups and downs, overall we've got a really great kid! He is funny, smart, sweet, a great big brother, an awesome friend to have. We love him immensely, and I'm so excited to see what is in store in year 12.




Tuesday, July 14, 2020

School Woes

Guys I need to just whine for a little bit. I know that in the grand scheme of things my worries about what our fall will look like is very small. But it is so stressful too!

We have filled out 2 surveys so far this summer {with a 3rd one expected soon} about our plans for the fall. So far, we have said both times we want to send our kids to school full-time. I have no idea if that's the right answer, but the below graphics really describe the complex emotions I am feeling. 

It is difficult to be a full-time employee and a full-time mom, and during the day I find myself getting frustrated when the kids 1) act like kids, 2) need things...like food and attention, 3) make messes, 4) try to engage with me when I'm on a call, etc. I also get frustrated with myself for using screen time so much as a crutch and not getting them more active during the day.



The flip side of that is the guilt over whether it is safe to send them back to school or not. Teachers will be on the front-line of this virus - they will be the ones trying to keep the students apart, keep masks on, dealing with them at the end of the day if they can't go outside or have recess or PE, worrying about their health and their students health. 

Add to this that I don't feel equipped to be their teachers - there are not enough hours in the day for work and school and physical activity and let's not mention socialization!

I know this is fuzzy, but this really nails it.


Will this ever seem normal? I hope not!




I should have just uploaded this graphic instead of typing this post, huh? {grin}

This one literally made me laugh at loud.
It's better to laugh than cry, right???